What does overwhelm mean to you? How do you know when you are reaching it?
When I talk to my clients, they often tell me that they are not very stressed, yet when I touch my clients and listen to them I see a very different picture. Many people equate stress with overwhelm, and overwhelm being something hugely wrong like a death or major life trauma.
Have you ever watched small children when then turn from happy delightful beings into crying, fidgety, bratty beings? How they go from joy to fear and upset so easily? Well your inner child does the same thing when you are not meeting your own needs. We all need to sleep well, eat timely, exercise and spend time doing engaging activity. As children, we have our parents to notice our signs of needing some thing and meeting that need. Who watches out for you?
Here are some common early signs that you need time in :
- Making poor food choices, such as needing coffee to survive the day, eating too much sugar, grabbing a candy bar to get through the afternoon, stopping for fast food every night.
- Letting things pile up. This can be mail, paying bills,cleaning, gardening,emails, magazines, that pile of stuff on your counter and or table, email or phone calls. (Put in your own pile of stuff here.)
- Moodiness, criticism, snapping at people, wanting to cry for no reason, not being able to make simple choices.
- Armoring of the body. This can go any where from a simple ache to a migraine, muscle spasms, and digestive issues.
- Accidents of all kinds. Rolling your ankle, cutting yourself while cooking, car accidents.
- Addictive behavior, shopping, nightly wine, Facebook etc.
- Frequent illness, flu, colds, infections.
I think you get the idea and am sure you can add to the list. The key here is to identify what little things happen that start you on your path to overwhelm, so that you can identify them before you get to overwhelm. These are clues into your subconscious asking you to meet a need, set a boundary or make a change. If you find and identify the need, you can avoid overload and maybe evade overwhelm. When your life is full of chronic neglected needs, your body turns to disease and pain to get your attention and slow you down. If you get to this point, you may need help to keep yourself going on a joyful and peaceful path. It may be time to seek a mentor or coach who can help guide you and point out what you can not see for yourself.