Life Shifts of my Archetypes

The first house in an archetypal chart (also in astrological charts) deals with development of your persona. The first house covers how you are seen by others and how you see yourself, how you initiate things, and how you view what life is about . I have the archetype of the invisible child in my first house. My comfort zone is to not really be seen or noticed. In fact I used to be so much this way that I really wasn’t noticed by others. Luckily, archetypes that are activated in you are capable of maturing as you grow up, learn through mistakes, and have to step up to the plate. I now can choose to be visible. Never the less, the thought of writing and sharing my thoughts  with the world are still scary to me. I have slowly been practicing with this blog and my newsletters and even on Facebook.

I also have  a Gambler archetype in my area of joy and creativity. The gambler in me just jumps out of nowhere and takes random chances. One day I was offered the option to be a collaborative writer for this book 365 Life Shifts: Pivotal Moments That Change Everything. The gambler in me signed up and I was committed. This in itself was a life changing moment. I share a personal story about fear and grief. Talk about a gamble!

The stories in this book show how when you listen to your inner guidance miracles really do abound.  I am so proud to be part of such a wonderful group of writers sharing their hearts. Anyone who reads this book will find at least one story that they relate to. Release date was February 21 and it is already a best seller on Amazon in 8 categories. If you are interested in the book, here is the link. 365 Life Shifts

If you order soon, there are also over 70 free digital gifts, including my releasing meditation. Just copy your order number, go to this link Free Gifts click on gifts and enter your amazon order number for instant access.

On the One Week Anniversary of Orlando

Today marks the one-week-anniversary of the Orlando shooting, one week since a man walked into a nightclub and gunned down 49 of our fellow human beings.

As the shock of this tragedy begins to pass, many of us are now being forced to confront our own shadow sides. Mostly what I have observed this past week is outrage and fear, acting along with sorrow – emotions that I myself experienced after hearing such heartbreaking news. Those feelings of rage and fear can be very disorienting; they trigger our own shadow sides and remind us that we too carry darkness inside. That darkness, combined with the senselessness of the event, has left many people feeling overwhelmed and at a loss for what to do.

What I propose, and am doing myself, is that each of us actually allow ourselves to feel the full depth of our feelings that arise, that we give ourselves ample time to be with our own shadow sides, to feel our own darkness, in as much depth and scope as we can.

The first step is to acknowledge the shock (or perhaps the lack thereof). The next step is to give ourselves permission to really accept each of the feelings that come up: hatred, sadness, judgment, despair, fatality, hopelessness, grief, guilt, empathy, revenge, and more. We must learn to be honest about what we are feeling rather than to simply push away the feelings we do not want to experience.

As you take time to acknowledge those feelings, it is important to notice how the feeling affects your entire body. You can do this in whatever way works for you: sitting in silence, walking, writing, running, yelling at the ocean or simply standing with your feet in it – there is no right or wrong way to feel your feelings.

As you notice each feeling, try to refrain from rejecting the feelings you label as wrong. This can be incredibly difficult – this might mean being the parent of a gay son and taking time to feel the deep fear in your body of what it would mean to lose your son. It might mean acknowledging the guilt you carry for some of the thoughts you have, spoken or unspoken, that contributed to anti-gay climate in our culture. It likely means facing feelings you may not even consciously realize you have.

Once you have given yourself permission to feel your deep self, your shadow self, you can now make a choice to move beyond the darkness and to help the rest of the world move forward as well. Remember, we are all interconnected. When dark, hateful events trigger our shadow sides, they lower both our individual vibrations, and also the interconnected vibration of the world.

One simple tool you can use to help raise the vibration of the world – and to move beyond those feelings of helplessness – is the ancient art of Tonglen.

Try this:

Take a few deep breaths and place your hands over your heart, right hand over your left.

Send intentions of love, first to yourself, then to your family and friends. Next, take these same intentions, and send them to the strangers of the world, and finally to those you dislike, hate, or have any negative feelings toward.

While you can choose words of intention that best fit your personal feelings and spiritual beliefs, here is a version you can use:

May I be free from suffering;

May my heart be full of love for all beings.

I am love and compassion.

I give love and compassion.

May my family receive love and compassion.

May my family be free from suffering.

May my friends receive love and compassion.

May my friends be from from suffering.

May those I don’t know receive love and compassion. May they be from from suffering.

May those whom I fear and dislike, receive love and compassion. May all be free from suffering.

When you raise your vibration, you help raise the vibration of all. Rather than indirectly contributing to ongoing hatred by reacting without acknowledging our own shadow side, you have now made a choice to feel your fears and to consciously expand through your heart.

May you too be from suffering and shed your light to help those in need.


Kim Marks is a soul coach. Her work focuses on helping individuals understand themselves and overcome past trauma in order to achieve more joy and peace in their lives. She specializes in grief and radical forgiveness.

Seeds of thought: Peaceful Resolutions?

Wow! We are already into 2015 .We made it through the frantic and often excessive time from Thanksgiving to New Year’s. Now the push is on to make resolutions and goals and I really dislike it when someone asks me what my resolutions are. Am I unique in this? This time of year the goals… Continue Reading